People don’t like it when you give up your privilege.
Why would you do that? they say.
You had so much privilege. So many people would want that. And you, you can have it.
You can be the THING that everyone values. You were on track to have so many accolades by such a wide number of people.
You must not be ok. You must just be having a hard time… right?
I am ok, I say.
The struggle is real. It’s real for everyone. But that doesn’t mean that I’m not ok.
If I wasn’t struggling, I wouldn’t be learning.
And… I don’t want to be a THING.
The price of those accolades is steep.
The price is self-actualization.
To become more and more what one is. To achieve the full realization of one’s potential and of one’s true self.
To be what the average person in the ruling class thinks everyone should be, is not to be me. It would be quite the coincidence if the real me was exactly that.
I could be that THING, but I don’t want to be.
I want more. I want more interesting.
I want to struggle. I want to learn.
I want to be surrounded by people who are ok with me not being a THING. More than that, I want to be surrounded by people who are happy that I’m not a thing.
People who are happy that I’m me.
Regardless of my privilege.
Anyway, what could be more privileged than self-actualization?
You have to get through all of Maslow’s other needs to get there- physiological, safety, belonging and love, esteem.
Maslow was a demanding dude.
I wonder what people are going to say when I try and level-up into self-transcendance?
“In his later years, Abraham Maslow explored a further dimension of motivation, while criticizing his original vision of self-actualization. By this later theory, one finds the fullest realization in giving oneself to something beyond oneself—for example, in altruism or spirituality.
He equated this with the desire to reach the infinite.”
At that point, it probably won’t matter to me.
Learning to not feel compelled to defend my personal decisions from the judgements of others, is part of the journey. I would guess.